A friend sent this link to me yesterday and it weighed heavily on my heart, so I wanted to share my thoughts with you all.
I’ve heard it complained that it is harder to buy age-appropriate clothing for kids, especially little girls. I agree if you are only talking about shopping at the mainstream mall. I’ve looked at La Senza Girls and thought to myself, I don’t even like most of the clothing in the adult version of the store, so why would I shop there for my kids?
I’ve noticed that in the “little” kids stores like Children’s Place and Please Mum, their sizes actually go up to about 12. So what if their styles are more “little girl” than other places that sell clothing in these sizes… who are we dressing? If you insist on shopping with your girls at places that sell sexified clothing, than don’t complain. There are alternatives. Handmade clothes, second-hand and consignment stores, shopping at non-chains or just making the more modest choices in the mass-market stores is not hard.
Having two girls (and maybe a third!) makes me conscious of issues like this all the time. I don’t even like taking my girls (let alone if I had sons) in the mall to walk by stores like La Senza – it’s like soft-porn on display for everyone to see.
What kind of self-image are we helping them to create?
That being said, should we really be surprised that the industry is like this? Probably not. The world is a terribly fallen, selfish, greedy, sexualized, commercial place. So what’s a parent to do?
Pray. And then be pro-active. Talk to your daughters (and sons!) about their bodies and foster a sense of beauty in what God has given them in modest ways.
And just turn off the TV and don’t buy those magazines and watch what you say to your friends around your kids. Because actions (and the voices of others) speak louder than parental words.